I often think about what matters in psychotherapy, counseling and coaching. At the heart of it is the importance of psychological flexibility in pursuing the vision we have for our life, how we enhance relationships, the importance of shifting perspective, and how well we regulate our emotions to balance competing expectations.
Psychological flexibility means being aware of thoughts and feelings - exploring underlying emotions and working on acceptance even when we may not like how we feel. Psychological flexibility also means persisting with, or changing behaviour to strengthen what matters to us. Knowing what’s important (values clarification) and committing to taking action are the key.